by Corné | Jun 3, 2023 | Change, Empowerment, Inspirational, Journey
Moving forward in life can be difficult when you’re weighed down by the past. Whether it’s a past relationship, a career setback, or a mistake you regret, dwelling on the past can hold you back from achieving your goals and finding happiness. Here are some practical tips on how to successfully leave the past behind and move forward.
The first step in moving on is to accept what happened. Acknowledge the situation for what it was, and allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with it. This can be difficult, but it’s an essential part of the healing process.
- Forgive yourself and others
Forgiveness is crucial in order to move on. Forgive yourself for any mistakes you made, and forgive others for any wrongs they may have done to you. Holding onto anger and resentment will only hurt you in the long run.
Regrets can also hold you back from moving forward. Accept that you can’t change the past, and focus on the present and future instead. Learn from your mistakes and use them as an opportunity for growth.
- Surround yourself with positivity
Surround yourself with positive people and things that bring you joy. This can include spending time with loved ones, engaging in hobbies you enjoy, or even just taking a walk in nature.
Mindfulness can help you stay present and focused on the moment. This can be especially helpful when you find yourself dwelling on the past. Try meditation, deep breathing, or other mindfulness practices to help you stay grounded.
Practical Examples:
- If you’re struggling to move on from a past relationship, try writing a letter to the other party (even if you don’t actually send it). Get all of your emotions out on paper and then let it go.
- If you’re dealing with a career setback, focus on building your skills and finding new opportunities. Take a class, network with others in your field, or even consider a career change.
- If you’re regretting a past decision, try reframing it as a learning experience. What did you learn from the situation? How can you use that knowledge to make better decisions in the future?
In conclusion, leaving the past behind can be challenging, but it’s essential for personal growth and happiness. By accepting what happened, forgiving yourself and others, letting go of regrets, surrounding yourself with positivity, and practicing mindfulness, you can successfully move forward and create a better future for yourself.
Here’s to letting go of the past and embracing the limitless possibilities of the future. May your journey forward be filled with joy, growth, and new beginnings.
by Corné | Mar 10, 2021 | Empowerment, Journey
If you are unhappy where you are in life, it could be you are not creating the right vision of yourself. Think back to recent thoughts you had. Were they negative thoughts or feelings like you’ve hit a roadblock?
Focus on who you want to become
Shift your focus to a life that you want or the person that you want to become. This must be your own dream, your own vision. The biggest mistake you can make is to strive to be someone else. Also start from where you are currently so that you are not totally unrealistic about what you want. This will only discourage you.
Various pathways to your goal
When you create a positive image within your mind, it will set up neural pathways to help you reach your goals. The more you reinforce this mental image the more pathways will be created. If there is information available online that can help you with your vision, use it to your advantage.
Determine a clear vision with very specific action steps
When you have determined your vision and the steps you believe will help you get there, continue to imagine that vision. Do this on a daily basis. Your brain will get so used to this vision it will become a subconscious process.
If altering your vision your brain will form new pathways
This is not to say you can’t alter your plan or your vision. There may be something you thought you wanted, but as you progress, you find this not to be the case. There is nothing wrong with that. If this happens, create another vision and move on from there. Your brain will form pathways for this new vision.
If your vision is fine but the plan is not getting you where you need to be, don’t be afraid to make changes to it. Plans are only guidelines. They can be changed as needed. This can happen when new information comes to light along the way, information that wasn’t available when you first got started.
Create a winning vision for yourself and stay focused
Be prepared for criticism while creating this new vision for yourself. It is yours and yours alone. People may not understand what you are trying to accomplish. Hold to your beliefs and prove them wrong. Your critics are not the ones who have to live with the vision or end result, that you have for yourself. You will find when you reach your goals, those same critics will suddenly be on your side. They will even claim to have been there for you all along. It’s annoying, but that is how people behave. It’s not worth the aggravation. Just move on with your vision and let them think whatever they want.
Stay Strong! Follow your Dreams and Vision for Yourself!
Peace, Love & Kindness,
by Corné | Jun 13, 2020 | Habit, Journey, Self-Care
If you break down Self-Care into 5 categories or types, you will find it easier to identify exactly which areas you need to focus on.
PHYSICAL SELF-CARE
Physical self-care involves activities that will improve your physical health. Examples of some of the activities are, a healthy diet, staying hydrated, exercise, enough rest, practice good hygiene. The result will be that you feel ‘sharp’, motivated, healthy, and happy. Sometimes it is simple things, that is having the biggest impact.
EMOTIONAL SELF-CARE
Emotional self-care is caring for your emotional needs, by identifying and nurturing your feelings, your conscious inner state, and your intellect.
Having an awareness of how to take more care of ourselves emotionally can serve you well when things get difficult. This type of care will look different for each one of us.
Do not suppress your emotions and ask yourself what causes these emotions. This knowledge will empower you, to focus on the positive ‘triggers’ and reduce the negative ones.
You will have to learn how to put your own needs first, without being selfish. You will have to start believing in your own abilities and capabilities.
Mistakes are an inevitable part of life and they help us grow and become better. Each time you make a mistake, acknowledge where you went wrong, and work to improve it in the future. Most important of all, forgive yourself!
PSYCHOLOGICAL SELF-CARE
Psychological self-care can also be called, mental self-care. Mental self-care includes doing things that keep your mind sharp. Activities that help declutter your mind and reduce your stress levels.
Learn more about a topic that really interests you. Do something you love, for example in the form of a hobby. Spoil and/or pamper yourself. Feed your mind positive thoughts. Make a list of all the things that you are grateful for.
SPIRITUAL SELF-CARE
Spiritual self-care is the activity we engage in to find and nurture a sense of connection to a Higher Power (God) and meaning in our lives. It all comes down to self-love and compassion for ourselves and others.
Understanding who is and what drives you can be a constant struggle. Goals and aspirations may change throughout the years, but there is always a central focus that is the main motivation behind everything you do. The goal is to identify what this is and honor it with what you focus on in your daily life. Identifying your true self starts with honesty about what you love and what gets you excited about life.
PROFESSIONAL SELF-CARE
Professional self-care is self-care that is related to your work life. That includes practicing self-care while at work and adopting self-care practices that lead to a healthy work-life balance. It is meant to reduce overall stress regarding your career.
So to be able to practice self-care, directly benefits individuals, their families, and society.
Peace, Love & Kindness,
by Corné | Apr 27, 2020 | Empowerment, Encouragement, Habit, Journey, Mindfulness, Upliftment
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO ‘LIVE IN THE PRESENT’?
A simple explanation of living in the present moment. It means letting go of the past and not waiting for the future. It means living your life, being aware of each moment, and that every breath is a gift.
Living in the present moment is important. There is no point to dwell on the past or being anxious about the future. The only thing we have control over is the moment you have right now.
THE IDEA OF MINDFULNESS OR BEING MINDFUL
“A mental state is achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment. While acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. Used as a therapeutic technique.”
Mindfulness is the quality of being present and engaged with whatever you are doing now.
Try to take the time to experience your environment with all your senses. Touch, sound, sight, smell, and taste.
Experience the moment and enjoy it!
OUR POWERFUL MINDS
The brain is the central processing unit of the body. It plays a key role in translating the content of your mind, into complex patterns of nerve cell firing and chemical release. That is your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, beliefs, memories, and imagination.
Your mind is part of the invisible, transcendent world. Of thought, feeling attitude, belief, and imagination. The brain is the physical organ most associated with the mind and consciousness.
Our brains are complex and powerful but do not have discernment ability. So, it cannot distinguish between ‘real reality’ and the reality we ‘feed’ it. So, we can ‘program’ our brains. We as human beings will ‘feed’ it with negativity. So, we must focus, on ‘feed’ and ‘program’ it with positive and happy thoughts!
WE ARE SEEKING CALM IN OUR HECTIC EXISTENCE
Now that we know that we have a major impact on the ‘programming’ of our brains. We must be very mindful, of what we are especially confronted with first thing in the morning. As this will have an unconscious impact on the rest of our day. What we are confronted with, the last thing in the evening. As this will have an unconscious impact on the rest of our evening. On how good a night’s rest or not, we will have.
THE IMPORTANCE OF A DAILY ROUTINE
With all the above information now known to us. We must consciously avoid negative inputs in our lives. Especially first thing in the morning and last thing in the evening.
That is why the practice of mindfulness, which does not have to be meditation, is so important. Meditation is a means to assist in practicing mindfulness.
My personal recommendation or opinion. A Meditation session first thing in the morning. For interest’s sake, there are many types of meditation. Meditation is a whole science on its own. And some Gratitude journaling, last thing in the evening.
A LIFE-CHANGING EXPERIENCE
I cannot emphasize the importance of practicing to be mindful / living in the present enough.
When you mastered that, it is a life-changing experience.
On top of the calmness and the enjoyment of every moment, there are countless health benefits.
It reduces stress levels, improves sleep, improves attention, concentration and memory, lowers blood pressure, helps reduce anxiety and depression, etc.
You do not have to take my word for it. Try it for yourself!!
Peace, Love & Kindness,
by Corné | Apr 24, 2020 | Empowerment, Encouragement, Journey
First, you need to uncover what you genuinely want. We will go through a few steps, to assist you in making the decision, a little easier.
CONSIDER WHAT YOU WANT
It is easy to make long lists of things that we do not want. It is not that easy to make a list of things that we want. Make a list of things you have always thought about doing but resisted because of a fear you would not excel.
Remember this is what you want for yourself, not what other people want for you.
WHAT WILL THE IMPACT BE OF PURSUING YOUR VISION?
There are a few questions that you need to reflect on, before starting your journey to pursue your vision.
How will every part of your life (health, wealth, family & friends, personal, career, relationships, hobbies) be affected in a positive and in a negative way, by pursuing this new vision of yours?
SET A 10-YEAR VISION PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE
Jumping 10 years into the future, inspires you to dream big. So, base your vision on the fact that in ten years anything and everything is possible.
Set a 10-year vision and break it into smaller goals. This will assist you in creating a clear picture of an ideal future and what it is going to take, to get there. Setting your goals, working back from 10 years to 1 year in the future.
A great vision often seems impossible but becomes more plausible when broken up into smaller goals. Creating smaller goals allows you to plan for achieving your ideal life.
FAILURE IS INEVITABLE, MAKE IT COUNT
Failure is not a choice, it is an inevitable part of life. It is through failure that we learn. If you study the life of anyone that achieved something extraordinary, you will find a story of failure along the way.
Achieving great things does not happen in your comfort zone. Taking risks is part of the process of discovery.
Fear of failure, unfortunately, stopped many people from pursuing their life’s vision.
DO YOU BELIEVE IT IS POSSIBLE TO ACHIEVE YOUR VISION?
You must believe in your idea/vision. You must believe in yourself and your abilities.
The best way to start/begin anything in life is to start from where you are. An immensely powerful secret is to be and stay “fearless” throughout. Fearless individuals are not unafraid, they simply can overcome their fear.
Every journey starts with that ‘first step’.
The road to success is a long journey, with peaks and valleys and boulders on your way. You must believe that there is nothing that you cannot overcome.
Keep focused on your goals.
Get ready to step into the world of possibility and go change the world!
Peace, Love & Kindness,
by Corné | Apr 20, 2020 | Change, Empowerment, Encouragement, Journey
Most of us, with COVID-19’s lockdown period, had to change our routines. Doing things, we do not always get time to attend to. Time for reflection. Spending more time with our loved ones. New habits. New ideas. New perspectives. Work from home.
REFLECTION TIME
Let us put all the other things aside and focus on reflection time. At home for such a long time. What did you reflect on? Did you have to work from home? Do you miss going to work? Do you miss spending hours in traffic? Do you love staying at home? Do you think you will be able to start working from home? Do you want to do something different with your life?
All these questions might have crossed your mind? Then there is a good chance that you are feeling overwhelmed and confused.
HOW DO YOU WANT TO BE REMEMBERED?
If you feel that you perhaps need a change. This is something that might assist you a little, in deciding on the direction you want to go in. Think of how would you want to be remembered? What do you want to be written on your tombstone?
YOUR MANTRA FOR THE REST OF THE YEAR
Your tombstone inscription might also be your mantra for the year. The difference is, that your mantra is more short-term in nature. The idea of your mantra is one main goal that you want to accomplish, say in the next year. You will have to break that down into smaller accomplishable steps.
SOME IMPORTANT DECISIONS AND PLANNING
You have to decide for certain, what you want to do with the rest of your life. Do you think that you need a change? If the answer is that you are satisfied with where you are and with what you are doing, then you are one of the lucky ones.
Most people are not satisfied with their current circumstances. Most people have something else in mind for the rest of their lives.
CAN YOU DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT?
Remember, nothing that’s worthwhile happens overnight. Will you be able to change your circumstances? Can you afford a transition phase? Are you willing to work the hours needed to accomplish your new goal? It is not going to be easy. You must get your mindset right for this transition. It is going to take a lot of time and effort. Depending on your plan, it might cost a lot of money…
All these need to be considered and planned for beforehand.
WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?
Most people do not have a clear idea or goal. Don’t worry about that, as I will go through the whole process in time.
If you have a clear idea of what you want to do, you can start with your planning.
- Define your goal
- Break your goal into small steps
- Start
The biggest mistake you can make is to overthink your idea. No one is perfect and your idea will never be perfect. We learn from our mistakes. Mistakes are an inevitable part of our lives and of anything that we do. If you are not making mistakes, you are not doing anything.
I agree that some planning and calculations should be done before you start. Don’t fall into the procrastinating hole.
TAKE ACTION NOW!!!
Peace, Love & Kindness,
